I believe particularly as a woman (men, if you feel the same way let me know) there are a ton of lies we can fill our head and hearts full of. We have media telling us that if we aren’t sized 4 with the perfect husband, wildly successful career and working on a family by the age of 25 then we are a failure. I fall into this “lie trap” more than I would like to admit, so I am sharing the lies with you – not to wallow, but to confess that I must focus on the truths.
- Failure will end you.
- Comparison is normal.
- You have to have your ‘stuff’ together.
- Success comes easily.
- You don’t have to work for a good relationship.
- Beauty and growth can stem from ‘failure’. As a type A lady, failure was never an option. Until I failed- miserably. However, I had a great support system that was there to help me move on and grow/learn from the situation.
- Compare yourself to your past. Comparison can kill your joy. Even though my friends might have their huge new home and bouncing baby girl, does not mean I am ready for them. God has a beautiful plan for each of our lives, I would do better by trusting His timing. Comparing yourself to your past will force you to see the growth that has occurred and to see your plan is not best.
- There is beauty in transparency. There is a huge pressure to not show weakness to others. Everything is always fine or good. Newsflash: It’s not- at least not all the time. Be honest, and show your hurt with those who love you. In my experience hurts brings people closer to you.
- Perseverance and hard work pay off. A wise friend once told me after I graduated from college to “Do hard things”. Her encouragement was that just because something may seem hard, doesn’t mean it is bad or not worthwhile. It is simply hard and will build character. To be incredibly honest, starting a small business was incredibly scary and hard, but there has been so much growth.
- Relationships deserve your time and attention. People matter. As much as my little introverted self hates interacting with people, it is so important. Take the time to tell those that you love them, but then do something more than just tell them – show them! I am by no means encouraging toxic relationships, I am however pleading with you to shower your family and close friends with love. They may not be perfect, but then again, neither are you.
Well, that was a whole truckload of serious for one day. Do you fall into these “lie traps”? What truths must you focus on instead?