“Busy” {Personal}

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Typically, I have zero hesitancy on what I post on the blog. But this topic has been bouncing around in my brain for about a month. And it is simply (or not so simply) this- when someone asks me, “How are you?” and I respond, “Busy.”

Why do I need to justify my life to another person? Why is this my first answer? We are all ‘busy’. And if you are not, then cherish it. Actually, don’t just cherish it, encourage others to take time for peace.

I need to find a better answer.

An answer that actually expresses where I am at that moment. An answer that is not an excuse. An answer that will allow me to be honest and real.

So if you asked me today, “How are you?” In my head I might say, “Well, I’ve worked all day and now I’m going to go is seventeen different directions to prepare for the weekend. The weekend holds two events and two photography opportunities. Let alone all of my household obligations that I have been neglecting and homework for my masters classes.” But my heart says, “This is an exciting  time of my life – full of opportunities and unknowns.”

But what does my mouth say?

I want my mouth to say, “I’m ok, a bit overwhelmed and anxious about my future, but I have faith that I will get through this stage of life. I am enjoying every moment of it, and not wishing to get to the next big ‘thing’.”  But do I really want to lay all of that on some unsuspecting person, when they were just being polite?

I challenge all of you to ask me, how I am and do not accept busy. Challenge me to be open and real. Challenge me to not assume that my feelings are not important. I also challenge you to not have ‘busy’ as your answer. The person asking wants to know how you really are – in the midst of your busyness.

14 thoughts on ““Busy” {Personal}

  1. Amber Robinson says:

    you should totally watch this week’s episode of Being Mary Jane, it would really resonate with this topic. The main character played by Gabriell Union gives a eulogy at her best friend’s wedding about the question “How are You” and how we not only answer, but expect others to answer too

  2. ashton says:

    So real!! I think this is the time of year we are all really struggling with our worth against demand and it’s hard to know how to express that. Thanks for sharing! <3

  3. Go Creative Go! (@gotweetsgo) says:

    It’s great that you first remembered that busy is relative. We’re all busy in our own way. What may overwhelm some is a drop in the bucket for others. I think, personally, that busy has become a buzz word and it’s really lost its original meaning and intent. Busy can be good, bad or indifferent, depending on your mindset. Sounds to me like your mindset is pretty positive, though a little scared about the future. That’s just one of the joys of the “glamorous” entrepreneur life, right?

    Great post, very honest and something that many of us face. Thanks much for sharing.

  4. Rebecca says:

    Good reminder! It’s such a shame that we can find it difficult to respond anything other than “I’m doing fine”. Have the confidence to be honest and hopefully it inspires everyone else to support those that need it and to listen more!

  5. Katie Whitcomb says:

    Great advice for yourself and others. It’s so easy to get trapped into the one word response so we don’t go into a place of complaining (or at least, that’s what I’m afraid I’ll come off as). It’s so hard to respond to that question honestly when you are busy though.

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